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The Desperation of Lectures
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The Step by Step of Parental Estrangement
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Phrases that Make Kids Anxious & Parents Neurotic
January 26, 2026
Look and Listen!
January 18, 2026
Understanding Does Not Equal Agreement
January 12, 2026
Benign Underparenting is Good
January 4, 2026
The most common and wrong adjective leveled at children…
December 30, 2025
Throwback Tuesday! A Guarendi Christmas Letter
December 23, 2025
He’s a Special Child
December 15, 2025
Parents should ask babies for consent to change diapers, experts say.
December 7, 2025
Jesus Was Not a Good Man
December 2, 2025
Getting Cooperation from our Kids
November 25, 2025
How do feelings change?
November 16, 2025
Is an Algorithm Raising Your Kid?
November 10, 2025
Affection Sends a Powerful Message
October 26, 2025
The Myth of the Middle Child Syndrome
October 19, 2025
The Body is Dumb
October 12, 2025
Who should I blame for my problems?
October 6, 2025
Non-Judgmental Language is Just Wrong
September 29, 2025
The Causes of Our Cultural Violence
September 20, 2025
Walk a mile in my shoes, or you can’t help me – NOT!
September 16, 2025
The Curse of Extreme Language
September 9, 2025
Children Want Discipline – Not!
September 2, 2025
What does an apology say?
August 25, 2025
The Dust Kicker-Upper!
August 17, 2025
Psychological Correctness has Burned More Than One Generation
August 11, 2025
Why little troubles seem big…
August 4, 2025
The Craving for Certainty
July 28, 2025
The Danger of the Springer Effect
July 20, 2025
Be careful who you complain to…
July 14, 2025
Sometimes a scar is not a scar…
July 7, 2025
Out of Control Emotions May Not Be So Out of Control!
June 30, 2025
Population Bomb? Not!
June 23, 2025
The Diagnosis Explosion Among Kids
June 16, 2025
Generational Gratitude
June 9, 2025
The interview went on one minute too long…
June 2, 2025
Jesus Didn’t Have What I Have
May 25, 2025
Classical Conditioning Parenting: “The Look”
May 19, 2025
One Saved, Always Saved – Doesn’t Make Sense
May 11, 2025
Acting sorry is easier than saying, “I’m sorry.”
May 2, 2025
Spiritual, but not Religious – Means Agnostic
April 26, 2025
The Teenager Stereotype
April 18, 2025
The Payoff of Complaining
April 11, 2025
The Law of Lecturing
April 8, 2025
Pick Your Battles!
March 29, 2025
The When of Better Communications
March 24, 2025
Feeling Rule — NOT!
March 15, 2025
Sports Fan vs. Mass Man Enthusiasm
March 9, 2025
The Discipline Therapeutic Window
March 3, 2025
Why do parents get so frustrated?
February 24, 2025
People don’t act as you wish.
February 14, 2025
Who would your spouse say you treat best?
February 9, 2025
Does God Will Suffering?
January 28, 2025
The System Works!
January 19, 2025
The Law of Social Entropy (in Marriage)
January 11, 2025
Don’t Debate Doing What’s Good: You’ll lose!
January 5, 2025
Discipline Therapeutic Window
December 30, 2024
Parenting teens doesn’t have to be a nightmare!
December 22, 2024
What does an apology say?
December 16, 2024
When Too Much TV News Makes You Negative
December 11, 2024
Abbott & Costello Authority
November 29, 2024
Gratitude is a Muscle
November 28, 2024
Don’t be a Teenage Catholic…
November 24, 2024
My Personal Trick or Treating Tips
November 19, 2024
Pro-choice boggles my mind
November 10, 2024
Don’t Let Others Rob Your Peace with Words
November 8, 2024
Grandparents Are Tricky People!
October 27, 2024
How Parents Benefit from From Good Discipline
October 22, 2024
Trophies for everyone! Really?!
October 14, 2024
Curse or a Blessing?
October 5, 2024
You are in a sliver of a minority
September 30, 2024
The Power of a Child’s Perception of Authority
September 19, 2024
The Great Writing Cliché
September 15, 2024
What exactly is a panic attack?
September 10, 2024
Distress is not danger!
September 2, 2024
Why are people so afraid of Christians?
August 26, 2024
Parenting Revolution!
August 20, 2024
Using Las Vegas Principles to Better Raise Kids
August 12, 2024
Let siblings solve their own conflicts – not!
August 5, 2024
Uh Oh! A logic problem with the Bible…
July 27, 2024
Panic Attack is Most Often Anxiety
July 23, 2024
CS Lewis Makes a Rational Case for Purgatory
July 15, 2024
Do you welcome insults?
July 8, 2024
The Mind-Shaping Power of the Culture
July 2, 2024
The New Value Neutral Language
June 24, 2024
You’re not the boss of me, Catholic Church
June 17, 2024
Is that host really Jesus Christ?
June 10, 2024
Rescue Syndrome
June 3, 2024
Letter Overload
May 27, 2024
Do sitcoms shape your parenting?
May 20, 2024
They care that you care that they don’t care!
May 13, 2024
Why can’t someone accept your deepest held beliefs?
May 6, 2024
Assigning motives to the actions of others can backfire.
April 30, 2024
Can you predict how your child will behave in the future?
April 23, 2024
We’re not always good at predicting how we’ll react.
April 15, 2024
Is faith in Jesus dead?
April 7, 2024
The Greatest Story Ever Told
April 2, 2024
Be careful who you complain to!
March 26, 2024
The experts are uneasy with strict discipline
March 19, 2024
Holding Parents Accountable for Children’s Horrific Behavior
March 12, 2024
What Is Your Personal Apology Percentage?
March 5, 2024
Did the Holy Spirit make a mistake?
February 27, 2024
For Lent, give up something a lot harder than chocolate covered peanuts
February 19, 2024
Who are you leaving your money to?
February 12, 2024
Does discipline break the spirit?
February 6, 2024
Are you a slave to your cellphone?
January 30, 2024
You’re Not Really Sorry
January 24, 2024
That’s Not Me!
January 16, 2024
The Power of the Cell Phone’s Ding
January 9, 2024
Don’t write people off because they’re non-believers!
January 2, 2024
Smart Phones vs. Conversations
December 26, 2023
Reacting Better to Difficult People
December 19, 2023
Reinforcing Consequences for Kids
December 12, 2023
Men and Women ARE Different!
December 5, 2023
The Predatory Nature of Smart Phone Technology
November 27, 2023
Time-Limited Holiday Frustrations
November 21, 2023
When is criticism acceptable?
November 13, 2023
Leaving Common Sense Behind
November 7, 2023
Don’t judge truth by those who don’t follow it.
October 31, 2023
He doesn’t listen!
October 23, 2023
Are You Prickly?
October 17, 2023
Battered Parent Syndrome
October 10, 2023
Kids and Social Influencing
October 3, 2023
Do You Want To Be Content?
September 18, 2023
God, how do you do that?
September 12, 2023
Save Catastrophic Language for the Really Big Stuff!
September 4, 2023
What’s it going to hurt?
August 21, 2023
Self Identity With Broad Effects
August 14, 2023
Comfort Zone
August 8, 2023
The Futile Lecture
August 1, 2023
Anger Management Issues
July 24, 2023
Will perfect parenting standards backfire?
July 17, 2023
Give your kids a work ethic
July 10, 2023
What the media wants us to think…
July 3, 2023
Personal Apology Percentage
June 26, 2023
Hate Speech
June 20, 2023
God & St. Francis Discuss Mowing the Lawn
June 12, 2023
The Cascade Effect
June 5, 2023
Don’t Shove Your Morals on Me!
May 29, 2023
The Durability of Personality
May 22, 2023
Are You A Liar?
May 15, 2023
Are you easy-going?
May 8, 2023
Parenting Kids Under Peer Pressure
May 1, 2023
The Great Parental Fear
April 24, 2023
Hard-Hitting LGBT Statistics
April 18, 2023
What the heck are dreams?
April 10, 2023
The Tyranny of the Theory
April 3, 2023
Facebook makes you doubt your parenting.
March 27, 2023
Which kid do you love most?
March 6, 2023
Why is this child so frustrating?
February 27, 2023
Social Media & Misery: Protect Your Child!
February 20, 2023
Why don’t so many not think about the afterlife?
February 13, 2023
Your mom took care of you when you didn’t remember…
February 7, 2023
Balancing Family & Elder Parents
January 30, 2023
When adult children shun their parents
January 23, 2023
Can you be your child’s best friend?
January 16, 2023
Danger is Not Distress
January 10, 2023
Strength training is not just for younger folks!
January 2, 2023
Kids want you to think you’re psychologically damaging them
December 26, 2022
Have you walked in my shoes?
December 20, 2022
The Toys R Us Truck
December 12, 2022
Kids Are Psychologically Slick
December 5, 2022
Gratitude is a Muscle to be Exercised
November 29, 2022
Good Manners Today
November 22, 2022
Apathy: Kids work hard at it!
November 7, 2022
Fragility of Self-Image
November 1, 2022
Why am I so anxious?
October 24, 2022
Who said your parents are toxic?
October 17, 2022
Are you the upper limit of what your children can become?
October 11, 2022
Expressing or Disrespect?
October 4, 2022
Overstuffed With Stuff!
September 26, 2022
Knowing why doesn’t really help.
September 19, 2022
A way to forgive more easily…
September 12, 2022
A heart-wrenching call about abortion…
September 5, 2022
Am I critical or what?
August 29, 2022
Phraseology of Achieving
August 22, 2022
Just Ignore It!
August 15, 2022
Don’t go extreme on me!
August 8, 2022
The Law of Social Entropy
August 2, 2022
What do you expect?
July 26, 2022
Are Old People Invisible?
July 18, 2022
Little Kids Jokes: The Bane of Parenthood
July 11, 2022
The Right to Privacy
July 4, 2022
He Doesn’t Listen!
June 28, 2022
Dr. Jeckyll & Mr. Hyde
June 20, 2022
Can a person be your near occasion of sin?
June 14, 2022
Is your kid’s room a trash pit?
June 6, 2022
Do your kids help with the housework?
May 30, 2022
Are You Spoiled?
May 24, 2022
True Self Image
May 16, 2022
Is that really Jesus in the Eucharist?
May 9, 2022
Resolve to Conquer Anxiety
May 2, 2022
The Marriage Test
April 25, 2022
You can’t hurt me; I won’t let you.
April 18, 2022
It Won’t Hurt Him!
April 11, 2022
I’m a Good Person!
April 4, 2022
You can’t protect them forever!
March 28, 2022
Kids and the Right to Privacy
March 20, 2022
Life’s Not Fair!
March 14, 2022
What did you give up for Lent?
March 6, 2022
Because I Said So!
February 27, 2022
Quiet Authority
February 21, 2022
Red Corvette Discipline
February 13, 2022
How much money would it take for you to not saying anything?
February 8, 2022
A Dirty Communication Trick
February 3, 2022
A Child’s Behavior Can Make Him Unhappy
January 24, 2022
It’s all in the perception
January 16, 2022
Columbo Parenting
January 10, 2022
Taking the sting out of others’ words
January 3, 2022
Getting Fit: Just Show Up!
December 30, 2021
Guarendi Family Christmas Letter
December 27, 2021
Too many toys under the Christmas tree?
December 20, 2021
Is self esteem a good thing?
December 7, 2021
How Covid Altered the American Psyche
November 29, 2021
Happy Thanksgiving!
November 25, 2021
Is your skill a curse?
November 22, 2021
From Victim to Predator
November 9, 2021
Can we predict violence?
November 2, 2021
Don’t just act, “I’m sorry.”
October 25, 2021
You expect me to be perfect!
October 18, 2021
Is rolling eyes disrespectful?
October 12, 2021
As long as it takes…
October 5, 2021
Experts don’t like discipline.
September 27, 2021
Am I normal?
September 21, 2021
A Frightening Experiment
September 13, 2021
Peers ignoring the peers rule
September 6, 2021
Are you psychologically damaging your child by the way you talk?
August 31, 2021
Perception of Authority
August 24, 2021
Am I normal?
August 16, 2021
Are you smarter than an ant?
August 9, 2021
Are you a narcissist?
August 2, 2021
Me Too Tattoo!
July 27, 2021
How much risk can you live with?
July 12, 2021
How dare you imply I could be a holier spouse?
July 6, 2021
Which kid do you like best?
June 28, 2021
Social Media: A sticker system on steroids!
June 21, 2021
Formula Parenting
June 14, 2021
Could this be an early sign of dementia?
June 8, 2021
Am I wonderful or what?
May 31, 2021
Can you predict how you will handle a situation?
May 24, 2021
Are you smart?
May 18, 2021
Why Work?
May 10, 2021
You Don’t Trust Me!
May 4, 2021
Discipline: A Marathon – Not a Sprint
April 20, 2021
Why does Mom go ballistic?
April 13, 2021
Are the Gospels real?
April 6, 2021
What’s so good about Good Friday?
April 1, 2021
One Issue Voter
March 30, 2021
Bed Time Bad Times
March 22, 2021
Helping loved ones’ change their self-destructive behavior
March 15, 2021
Covid-19: Unintended Effects & Invisible Victims
March 8, 2021
Little Children Don’t Follow Any Rules
March 1, 2021
You’d better give something up
February 22, 2021
Watch out for the ‘WHY?’
February 16, 2021
Who declares your self-image?
February 8, 2021
I don’t understand God.
February 2, 2021
The Unintended Consequences of Divorce
January 25, 2021
The Best Expression of Compassion
January 19, 2021
Be at Peace
January 11, 2021
Fight, Flight or Fright?
January 4, 2021
Why wait until January 1st to make resolutions?
December 30, 2020
New Years Resolutions
December 28, 2020
The Meaning of Christmas
December 24, 2020
An Old Guarendi Christmas Letter
December 21, 2020
Shell Shocked 2nd Child Syndrome
December 15, 2020
How is your child wired?
December 7, 2020
Panic Attacks
November 30, 2020
Mandatory Mass?
November 24, 2020
Double Man-o-log! Do you believe a liar? And Incomprehensible to me.
November 10, 2020
Law of Diminishing Return
October 27, 2020
Parenting by Consensus
October 6, 2020
Are you afraid of seeing Jesus?
September 15, 2020
Did you cause your child to be that way?
August 31, 2020
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